Going through the Motions

When I got out of bed and turned on the radio, I heard the song The Motions by Matthew West.

Every line hits me hard.

I don’t wanna go through the motions

I don’t wanna go one more day

Without your all consuming passion inside of me

I don’t wanna spend my whole life asking,

“What if I had given everything,

Instead of going through the motions.”

I can’t remember how many times I’ve sat down wondering whether or not I should have said something, or whether or not I should have given something, or whether or not I should have stepped in and actually done something rather than just watch.

We all know that when we get to that point, the answer is almost always “yes”.

I am guilty of just going through the motions. 

No regrets, not this time

I’m gonna let my heart defeat my mind

Let your Love make me whole

I think I’m finally feeling something

‘Cause just ok is not enough

Help me fight through the nothingness of life.

I’m still listening…stuck on “cause just ok is not enough”.

James 2:17 says, “faith by itself, if it is not accompanied by action, is dead.”

The song ends with “I don’t want to go through the motions.”

I don’t either.

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Challenges

I was thinking this morning about days without challenge.  There haven’t been many recently.  In fact, I can’t remember a single one…even on weekends…something always comes up.

Some days are much more challenging than others.  Typically those most challenging days are when I’m dealing with very challenging people.

And the days that are most rewarding are often times the days with the most challenges that have been overcome.

Sometimes, in the most challenging issues, I wait.  And waiting isn’t typically what I want or like to do.  In fact, my natural tendency is to react, not to wait.  But it’s amazing how many challenges resolve themselves by waiting.  They don’t actually resolve themselves, but they do get resolved by others who are directly impacted or have the ultimate responsibility to take on those challenges and bring them to some form of resolution.

For me, challenging people are much tougher than challenging issues.  Challenging people bring egos, and agendas, and personal biases to every situation.  Challenging issues don’t have any of those.   Challenging people take days, weeks, months or years to address and affect, and challenging people require a level of patience and wisdom beyond any capabilities I have today.

So in the mornings I pray for wisdom…and from that wisdom I seek patience…and from that patience I faithfully find peace in dealing with most challenges – either issues or people.

But not always!

Sometimes those challenges haunt me…for quite a long time.  And when they do, I find I learn the most.  I find I grow the most.  I find I feel a sense of accomplishment beyond belief when progress is made against those lingering challenges.

So I’ll keep praying, and I’ll keep asking for wisdom and seeking that patience.

I needs lots more of both!

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Ouch!

My Mom weighed in today with an email to my wife stating, “Please go ahead and knock his block off.”

I’ve spent my entire life seeking my Mom’s affection and yearning to hear her say, “Son, I’m proud of you.”

But instead, she sides with my wife who suffers from near delirium with TTICTA!

Where did I go wrong?

I’m starting to realize several things:

(1) doing the right thing often times brings criticism from those you love

(2) this TTICTA is evil; it creates emotions and drives actions that are impossible to predict and prepare for

(3) it’s absolutely essential to sleep with one eye open and be prepared for not-so-accidental accidents from your loved one suffering from TTICTA; those accidents never affect her, but for some reason, only affect you

(4) weather patterns will change dramatically, but apparently only in the close proximity of your home; the radiant heat signatures will act like two massive fronts colliding, spawning dark clouds, lightning and even tornados; here’s proof from last night…this storm seemed to just form right in front of our house:

Proof of TTICTA

(5) a good friend chimed in today, suggesting that cabbage wouldn’t appeal to many people; she suggested medical gloves with cold water or ice stuffed in them may work just the same and ease the symptoms of TTICTA

But back to my original point. 

My Mom has deserted me!

Ouch!

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Deeds

It is said that “no good deed goes unpunished.”

I think I fall into that category.

My sole goal was to find some remedies for the sleepless nights, the tossing and turning, and the world warming heat generation…not for me, but for my TTICTA wife.  I wanted her to find comfort amidst all the discomfort, and if for any reason comfort was not to come, I was hoping to use the super nova heat to provide meaningful purpose for the world.

But sure enough, she has taken my deeds (done with a perfectly pure motive) and spewed vengeance beyond belief!

Today, while I showered, she hurried to the store to get a paper.  Not because she wanted to read the news, but because she wanted to provide proof to our families that I was indeed (at least for now) still alive.

Here’s the proof she provided:

Time is short?

She even called out the date so everyone could see at this particular time at this particular place, I’m still breathing!

Today's Date

She’s certainly working overtime to pound her message home – “LEAVE ME ALONE”!

But her fighting back just inspires me to help even more!

I fully believe that all of her actions right now are not a threat, but instead, a desperate cry for more help!

I’m here for you sweetie!

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Please Hurry!

I’m in danger.

Please read – http://necascorner.blogspot.com/2009/06/brave-or-stupid.html.

I need witnesses!

In Trouble

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Proof

This is too funny!

The only time the smoke detectors are going off in Matt, Amber and Chase’s home is when Denise stops by.

Seriously!

According to Matt, the alarms don’t sound any other time.

That’s the amount of heat that’s being radiated.

The affects of TTICTA are absolutely staggering!

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Comparison

As you might have guessed, we’re a hockey family.  We don’t play hockey.  But we certainly contribute a significant amount of our annual income to the NHL to see hockey.

But this is “dead time” in our annual entertainment budget.  Hockey ended a couple weeks ago.  Training camp doesn’t start for a couple more months.  Preseason games don’t start again until late September.  And the regular season doesn’t start till October.

Understandably (to us anyway), we’re wandering aimlessly right now without that focus that drives us as a family in entertainment.

So Denise and I did something we never do.  We went to two baseball games this week.  We got seats down at field level for the first game and then up in the club level the second game.  At the first game, the Rockies came in riding an 11 game winning streak, and by the end of the 3rd inning, we knew pretty clearly it wouldn’t get to 12.  We were actually very worried that the team would send us a “thanks, but we don’t need your business letter” after that game, because we too were assuming that our presence was just the charm to cause their loss!  But, refusing to give in to the possible bad luck charm scenarios, Denise and I went to another game last night, this time with the Rockies having won 14 of 15…that only loss once again being the game we were at.

We were feeling pretty good after 6 innings.  The Rockies were comfortably in the lead at 4-2 going into the seventh.  But they went to the bullpen, and quickly gave up 5 runs.  They were trailing 7-4 going into their half of the 8th.  Denise and I were already talking about never going to a game again…there was no way they would let us in…and they knew who we were from the ticket ordering process off their web site!

But that Rockies magic that fueled them into the World Series in 2007 seemed to magically come back again last night.  In their half of the 8th, they got a 3-run homer from their catcher to tie it, and then in the bottom of the 9th, they got a game winning, walk off 2-run homer from Mr. Rockie himself.

What a great win.  More importantly, what a great way to keep customers…take away the perception of a curse!

Even with all the excitement, I have to admit — baseball is so hard to watch.

When I was young (decades ago!), I love to play baseball and softball.  I played into my 30’s.  It was awesome.

I was decent too…here’s me in fine form:

Me Batting

But even back then, I spent lots of time waiting and watching, yearning for action:

Me Watching

As we got to the field yesterday, I couldn’t help but watch baseball with a constant view of comparing it to hockey.

We had the pre-game warm-ups:

Pre-game Warmups

And the baseball version of the zamboni:

Baseball's Zamboni

But baseball had something rarely seen in hockey…players waiting around for action:

Waiting for Action

And a rain delay:

Rain Delay

But there was one other thing the same…a score board video start to the game:

Play Ball!

We had a great time.  Even more since they won!

But I must admit, if I had the choice between baseball and hockey, and both were going to cost us as a family $300 or more for one game, I’d have to choose hockey.  In hockey, action is non-stop through the breaks between periods.  In baseball, action is non-stop while the ball is in play, but it’s a struggle to wait for things to happen between plays.

I loved playing baseball.  I love the experience of the game.

But boy it’s hard to watch!

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Critics

I had to go back and update my last posting on “Coordination” because my 15 year old called this morning and said, “Dad, I was rereading your blog and since it’s hockey it should be goal and not score.”

I’m glad she’s reading the blog, but I hate it when she’s right!

I have to be more careful (and obviously more accurate) when I use any hockey analogies.

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Coordination

We all know what “hand-eye coordination” is.  It’s the difference between batting .300 and .175.  It’s the difference between a puck getting blocked by a goalie and a goal.  It’s the difference between a catcher actually catching a pitch or getting hit in the forehead (that happened to me – thus off to left field).

In business, we have our own version of hand-eye coordination because we too are supposed to be seeing the things happening in front of us and reacting to those things in a way that allows us to swing/catch/block/reject as needed.  And those most successful in business are those that have the best vision-action coordination.

In these tough economic times where annual reports and quarterly newsletters are constantly saying, “this has been a tough year for our company”, we need business leaders with phenomenal vision-action coordination.  We need to see clearly the storm clouds growing on the horizon.  We need to sense the growing delays in contracts or orders.  We need to feel the presence of competition coming up behind us.  We need listen to the whispers of policy makers and those in governance positions.  And we need to accelerate our business or make course corrections based on all of these things.

Unfortunately, many businesses are just like the batter than can hit any fastball to any part of the ball park.  So the pitcher throws that batter a curve, and sure enough, that awesome hitter strikes out. 

Change ups are the norm now.  A steady string of fastballs is the exception.

It’s time to get better at hitting change ups.

Or time to get new leaders with better vision-action coordination.

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Peace

I’m sitting on my front porch with a glass of wine, watching the darkness approach, listening to the distinctly different sounds of night, and feeling very much at peace.

Breakfast burritos brought some much needed early morning smiles.

A morning meeting at Starbucks reunited two friends in a common quest.

A lunchtime meeting brought entrepreneurial passions to the fore and opened some new possibilities, that may not have been just coincidence.

Afternoon calls brought passion and pride and focused forward on the right things to do.

Then dinner this evening provided opportunities for mentoring and encouragement.

And now I get to sit back, reflect, relax and experience peace.

If every single interaction is meant to be impactful – either impacting or being impacted – today was one of those days where every single meeting allowed me to find smiles.

And because I found smiles throughout the day, I am easily finding peace tonight.

I yearn for many more of these days.

I desperately seek those smiles.

I need this peace.

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